I’ve been called too sensitive, and I’ve been told to not take it personally. The people who called me too sensitive behaved too insensitively towards me then said that to cut me off from taking issue with it. The person who said to not take it personally, said that about anyone’s behavior I took issue with. They’d always say it had nothing to do with me, no matter how I was treated by someone. This was their go-to saying about that. It’s hard for me to wrap my head around, that no matter how badly someone treats me, it has nothing to do with me.

I was first called too sensitive when I was bullied in elementary school. The bully girls retorted with that when I took issue with their bullying. There have only been a couple others who have also been nasty to me who then turned it around to call me too sensitive when I took issue with their behavior. Generally, no one calls me too sensitive!

My conclusion is it is a bully’s defense to say to someone, and it’s their bad, not yours.

Too high maintenance or needy means you require more than they are wanting to give. I was never called either of those. I have tried to get more from those closest to me, but they won’t give. No one has done any maintenance or satisfied needs. At least, if you are being told you are too needy, that person is making some effort to meet those needs. It may be you are asking for too high a demand than reasonable. You should examine what it is you are asking of that person and if you think it is a reasonable expectation or it should be adjusted.