Acknowledging the problems is indeed the first step. Then comes acceptance, which is harder. But acknowledgement is huge whether it’s bpd or irritability. Once you accept it you can work on it. Much love to both of you.

I always find that a deep breath helps. Keeps me from acting on impulse. Today tho I’m taking too many breaks and not enough action. Excuse me now while I go get dressed and fetch the mail in.