Thank you, Slumber Kitty, for advice. Yes, she is full grown adult, but always has been highly insecure. I feel like, in contrast to that, she somehow feels entitled to everything because she thinks she has "disadvantages" (which are not real!), and she demands what she feels she is entitled. But as most insecure persons, when you say "no" she can't handle it, she receives it as rejection, and she feels somehow deceived. Like you owe her something and you need to give it to her or else... I have a feeling she could harm herself more seriously than so far, maybe even the worst. But she has a child, and I fear for him. I told her not just once, when she considered suicide because she is "bad parent", how would her child feel if he knows she harmed herself because of him. Children want their mom, however imperfect she is, suicide solves nothing. If that is "just a threat" then it's extremely cruel. I can't tell the difference! I tried to talk to my therapist about it but he gave no advice. It seems he doesn't have a clue what to do. But giving all my money or donating it is not an option, because this is not just an temporary situation, an obstacle, some period until they stand on their feet... If they were trying hard to get by and had temporary dry period, I would help. But this lasts for months maybe even years, and neither he or she is trying to do anything to make things any better. I believe she is really extremely depressed but I don't think giving money will help in any way, it will just leave me dry and resentful. I have a child too, and I don't have a husband. And I worked for 25 years, I bloody earned it!
Problem is how to prevent someone from doing harm to themselves. I don't know if calling police will help, and I am not sure if I will be aware if she decides that as they don't want me around that much. I barely see them ever. So I might not even know. As deeply depressed and insecure person as I am, I know, I really know, there is no use of crying and threatening with self harm so the others help you. You have to do it yourself. If you do something to yourself, you will harm everyone who cares about you, and that is all you will do. You will hurt every single person who cares, and you will solve NOTHING. I said that so many times, but to no avail. I am so tired. People, please, whatever you feel, tell yourself you are GREAT, you are smart, and you can do anything. Don't expect others to help you all the time, because you will become a burden and you will NOT feel any better. In this case, I just fear it's too late.