I'm a 31 y.o.female. I'm a teacher. And my bf and I have been together for almost 4 years. Recently, I missed my cycle so I am going to get a pregnancy test.

My worry is that if it comes back positive, colleagues at work would be judgemental. Most teachers are married and would secretly judge because I didn't plan. My partner and I are planning to get married this year, but I still have this gnawing feeling that having a baby out of wedlock is shameful (even though millions of people go through it every day).

My mother actually keeps wondering when we'll have a baby, but I always thought I'd be married first.

My bf is actually not bothered and says he's excited if we are. He says, "So, what? Things happen."

What do you think?

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