I'm sorry that your husband is treating you like dirt, however it does seem as if your husband is sexually frustrated (Due to your sexual issues going on), and using you as his punching bag. As a woman I do salute you for waiting until after marriage to have sex... if only everyone does this.

There is a famous quote that's circulating on the web that I agree with 100 percent, and that is If a man expects a woman to be an angel in his life, he must first create heaven for her. So far hes creating a hell for you, and that is not right at all. There is no way for you to convince him to care for your feelings. Either he wants to or not.

If he doesn't treat you right and doesn't respect you as a woman, and cherish your feelings the way hes suppose to.. I honestly can't see this marriage working too well. I do recommend marriage counseling, thought.