I hate to tell you, but your husband is an ***. I don't read any amount of real affection for him, and he certainly does not display any real affection for you. I don't know why you two decided you should marry, but I don't think he's going to change - he has a horrible personality.

You talk about going into therapy to change you, and while you may have issues to work on, without him making his own changes, this is not going to work.

He doesn't respect you. Respect is the most important quality in any lasting marriage.