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Old Mar 31, 2021, 02:04 PM
snowangel17 snowangel17 is offline
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I struggle with this too with all people in my life including my T. I have since realised that I actually 'shut down' from people if we are apart too long. I am away from extended family alot and I find myself rarely missing them. Maybe the first day or two but then it stops. The connection I felt to them whilst with them disappears somewhat and it feels like they are strangers. Cognitively I of course know they are not.
I would have thought that some of this arises as a result of unpredictable or inconsistent parenting and attachment injuries as well as other things? I really like the answer above about how the healing is finding something with in ourselves and not relying on our Ts. I also wonder if though if there is any healing to be had from having a T who is consistently there and shows that they are and available or is that just throwing money into the air. Is there a point where that consistency can help to rewire the brain to realize that someone can still be there even when not physically there or is that far too simplified?
Hugs from:
LonesomeTonight, RoxanneToto, SalingerEsme
Thanks for this!
*Beth*, LonesomeTonight, RoxanneToto