I struggle with this too with all people in my life including my T. I have since realised that I actually 'shut down' from people if we are apart too long. I am away from extended family alot and I find myself rarely missing them. Maybe the first day or two but then it stops. The connection I felt to them whilst with them disappears somewhat and it feels like they are strangers. Cognitively I of course know they are not.
I would have thought that some of this arises as a result of unpredictable or inconsistent parenting and attachment injuries as well as other things? I really like the answer above about how the healing is finding something with in ourselves and not relying on our Ts. I also wonder if though if there is any healing to be had from having a T who is consistently there and shows that they are and available or is that just throwing money into the air. Is there a point where that consistency can help to rewire the brain to realize that someone can still be there even when not physically there or is that far too simplified?
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