I'm sorry you're going through this. Of course it's just my personal thinking; but I'd have to say it sounds to me as though there's more to this (on your wife's part) than your ED. I have to wonder if she wasn't happy in the marriage for other reasons as well and perhaps your ED was either the last straw, so to speak, or perhaps a convenient rationale. Under any circumstances, I hope you will be able to work your way through this sadness to a brighter tomorrow. Best wishes...