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Mar 31, 2021, 05:10 PM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Originally Posted by Starry_Night
I have this issue too. What causes a child to not have object constancy, exactly?
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You can read a ton about it online but basically, lack of object constancy is a fear of abandonment by a significant person. Generally, lack of object constancy shows up as anxiety about the other person being "gone" or "not real", or that our previous interactions with the person are "a lie." The other person and our relationship to them feels real and genuine only when we are together with them.
Another way that a lack of object constancy manifests is when we cut ourselves off from the relationship and become numbed out. As in, "I'll leave you before you have a chance to leave me."
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