@Jennifer 1967...I can sympathize with the situation you're in with your mother. My aunt wouldn't relinquish the keys to her car until she died of natural causes, but we employed many strategies to keep her from driving. It can be done. In the last several years of her driving, she was in several accidents, including one in which she totaled her car. She wouldn't tell us what she was paying for car insurance, but I'm sure her rates were sky high. People, rightfully so, value their independence. You're just trying to keep your mother (& yourself) alive by drawing a line in the sand.

I hope your mother's eye surgery goes well tomorrow. Take good care of yourself, too.