I want to make a long story short and I really need help.Six years ago my son who is very close to us Introduced to us a mixed Asian decent woman. He has had serious relationships before and just came off of one. We are a loving Christian close knit family. After several months he asked us what we thought of her and she was going to move into his home. We really liked her and we were happy with the happiness she brought to our son. She even thanked us for giving our son to her and for our wonderful family. She has family that does not live in the area and she left them right out of college to start a new life elsewhere. That may be the cold part of her emotional status. They eventually got engaged and we threw them a beautiful party.They had told us they did not want a large celebration which was totally understood as they were frugal and would rather use money in a better area. We agreed. As they approached their mid 30s, I even suggested why not start a family...the wedding can come afterwards. Anyway they did and they gave me the most unbelievable beautiful grandchild which I babysat for her first two years because they were working parents. During the 2016 presidential election our family views and this woman’s views were so opposite and she became very defensive disrespectful and nasty to everyone in our family because of her passionate views of liberalism. It’s obvious it all became a political bias. I slowly saw how distorted she looked at our family. Anyway then Covid happened and they were serious quarantiners and kept themselves and their child away from us the grandparents. And the rest of the family.We held family gatherings cautiously and outdoors and we still had our togetherness but they never included themselves. We just learned after so many years that she felt hated and a racial tension coming from us. It is totally not true as we always loved her and my son whom is so happy and this beautiful grandchild. She seems to be creating stories that she thought she heard that tries to prove we are biased plus she is throwing instances in the mix because she felt un included in family events..My other son got married and we included her pregnant in every photo and each photo is hanging in our home from three years ago. She is twisting that day stating we slighted her by not including her in all the wedding plans. I had nothing to do with the plans yet she was in every photo and was in the procession of introductions to the reception. my husband and I had always loved her and I try to be her mother away from home because she doesn’t seem to have a relationship with her and I think she resents that and is taking away our son..He has taken her side and is supporting her to the point where he won’t even talk to us. We are very hurt. But she is seeing things so distortedly. I really don’t know what to do I’m being accused as being a gas lighter which is a new term I learned about. I am only defending what is rightfully true and what has actually happened in the last six years but she recollects something totally different. It’s possible that she has an envy for our family love that she is not getting from her family so she doesn’t want my son to be close to us anymore. I think it’s her underlying goal as it seems she became evil..I’m trying to save our family but it has gotten so bad.