Wow you sound VERY intelligent and very capable of learning, good for you!! It's amazing that you speak so many different languages and you can write English very well too.

Just so you know, when a parent hits a child that experience never truely goes away. It was your parents that created this deep challenge in you and it doesn't matter how they are now because they put something there that simply cannot be erased. Things parents choose to do with very young children can be there for a life time. This is something we are learning more and more as we learn about the human brain and development. This can lead to a person developing a need to have private space when they are learning and this can be this way for a life time. Unfortunately, parents tend to think in the moment and they often don't realize how a choice they make can be an important foundation that is a negative for a young child.

It's good that you have let go of needing perfection too, the brain isn't going to be perfect while learning, this is something that takes time and lots of practice and repetition when it comes to grasping any new skill. When we go to school, the entire purpose of education is in fact "learning how to learn". What every parent should focus on the most is supporting their child while learning so the child develops enjoyment about learning MORE than being stressed about perfection. When a parent hovers and demands too much, the child learns "stress" and often tries to distance in order to experience learning without the stress of that parent hovering.

There is always going to be certain conditions that help when it comes to learning. When learning a person is very much in their own head so to speak and it's best done without outside negative influences and this tends to be especially true for genius IQ's.

At this point, what you parents will need to understand, and as I say this they may not, is that you have formed your own learning style and they have to NOW respect that about you. They are still making this about THEM too much. They have to learn to let go of that and understand you are beyond that now. And YES, with some cultures that can be extra hard. Things are changing on a global level and younger generations are learning HOW to integrate with humanity now and this means distancing from old traditions of certain cultures and cultural traditions.