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Originally Posted by Goscratch
Thank you for trying to reassure me. We are a very close old-fashioned Italian family. I have tried to have a civil conversation with her but for some reason I seem to be getting more and more on her **** list no matter what I say. She does not want to talk anymore. This is her goal.. to alienate my son from us because she does not want to share him. and I want to add that they chose to get married a few years ago and they did not tell us or share this secret with anybody. Do you know how hurtful that is? It was something we always wanted for them and they went and did it behind our back’s.We have given them so much including the roof over their heads. How have we not accepted her?? It has tore our family apart.
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Please re-read what you have written here. No wonder they don't want to talk. So what if they got married without telling you? Why do you need to know? It was perfectly fine for them to have a child without being married so why all this indignation that they married and didn't say anything? It's their own business.
FYI my father is from Italy (making me first generation Italian-American) and my family as a whole has never gotten into the business of extended family the way you seem to want to, with the need to be all involved in their personal business, the demand that he recognize Mother's Day to you, etc. When a son marries, he has his own family that he makes decisions for. The word I would use is "intrusive" and that is what has put them off dealing with you.