I don’t understand why you blame your daughter in law for your son not calling you on Mother’s Day, not checking up on his father in the hospital or otherwise ignoring his parents. He is not a little child or a puppet. Whatever he does or doesn’t do as your son is on him. Not on her. You make it sound as he doesn’t have his own mind and only follows his parents and his wife. Was he raised to not be allowed to make decisions? And even if let’s say she brainwashed him, it doesn’t speak to his favor that he, a grown man, could be brainwashed in this manner.

If my daughter distanced herself from me and didn’t call to check up on me, it would be on her. Not on my son in law. How is it her fault he didn’t call you on Mother’s Day? Why is she to blame?