Thanks TunedOut

The points you've made make a lot of sense. Just got to stage, possibly due to lockdown(s), where I no longer want to be a punchbag. My mother has always been a difficult person (due to her mother's attitude).

I read somewhere (maybe on this site) that when confronted with this unacceptable behaviour, it was best to walk away and not react. Well, react or not, she still levels all the vitriol at me. So damned if you do and damned if you don't.

The list of people who've upset her is growing. Neighbours, my aunt and now me. Easter Sunday lunch will be interesting...