I am sorry this is happening!! I have not actually had it happen YET how ever it will something I have discussed with T because abuse is in his 80s and not in the veat health. She said it will likely be very emotional but mixed emotions: some relief, anger, sadness along with having painful reminders of the abuse. Mine is a family member and most people do not know the abuse so I will also have to act like the loving family member and feeling thr sadness of my children who love the person and are oblivious to what happened.