My husband of 13.5 years finally told me last night he couldn’t do this anymore and wants a divorce. I wasn’t completely blindsided. He has always been insecure and needed a lot of attention and validation and I’m not great at giving it. He has cheated in some way or another throughout our marriage and he came clean about it last night. Again, not a complete surprise. He craves attention.

He has always been extremely moody and when he’s angry he’ll say anything to get the last word in and hurt you more than you hurt him. He acknowledges this. For this reason I have always avoided arguing with him. Nothing good would ever come from it. This probably made me seem like I didn’t care, but I didn’t know a better way.

We have 2 children both still at home. In the back of my mind I know this is probably what’s best for our family, but I can’t help feeling like I’m failing my children. I would have stayed in this marriage forever for them, and yes, I realize that’s not healthy either.

But how do you walk away from someone who has been that constant in your life? It’s so scary to imagine life as a single parent, not having that person there to back you up on things, let alone the financial support.

I struggle with anxiety naturally and this is just putting me in a tailspin. How do you avoid drowning in depression for the sake of your kids?”

We plan to co-parent because we both love our kids, but he’s the “fun” one and I’m the caring one. What happens when they’d rather be at his house because it’s more fun?

Thanks for allowing me to vent. I know there’s no other way to get past this than to just go through it. I just hope I’m strong enough and don’t make too many mistakes. I’d love to hear positive stories about divorce!