It’s still a lot of alcohol. Plus he is a stoner. Yikes. Not marriage or cohabitation material (if that’s what you consider). Living with mom is the whole another issue(can’t afford his own place?).

Your ex wanting to meet in two weeks I am not sure about. Does he want to meet because there’s something important he wants to share or is it because you suggested to meet and want to propose to rekindle your romance? I’d stir away from both men. They sound like they’d make your life more stressful and harder, not more enjoyable and less stressful. Who needs that