Hi jace,

Good for you that you saw it coming, and it seems to me that you're saying a lot of the right things, like that this might be best for the kids.

Reading your post, it sounds like there might be some opportunity for you. Like, the kids will be with you a good bit of the time, so start being just as fun with them as your STBX. Maybe it'll bring you joy to let go of some of the parenting authoritarianism and indulge more in play. Or, now that you'll be free of the moodiness and hurtfulness, take a deep breath and enjoy the drama-free time to pursue hobbies and/or time with friends.

Not sure what'll fit for you, but I'm a couple months further along in my divorce than you and those are some of the things I've found work for me.

Good luck! You're probably at the worst point. It gets better.

R