For me, I always need to remind myself to be self accepting because, like you @RoxanneToto, self acceptance isn't a natural state of mind. But by reminding myself and always working on the self acceptance, helps, because it's better than the alternative of just living in and allowing the unhealthy mental states to govern the decision making process. Plus it offsets the process of being way too hard on oneself, so it provides a bit of peace as well. For me.