This is going to sound ridiculous to some ppl on here, but in my life for real, starting over at 50 is not appealing in the least. True, lasting friendships are very hard to establish, especially as we get older, and the dating scene is NOT appealing in the least. I've dated for 3+ decades and I am just plain DONE. IF he and I do not work out, I will choose to be single for the remainder of my life. Starting over at my age, with very few CLOSE friends and a shared social music scene? FORGET IT - NOT appealing. I'd FAR rather try to work things out in therapy, and he seems very motivated to make changes. I could be deluding myself, but given what I've experienced through COVID, I don't want to be alone - period. I just do not. I want a life partner.

And please don't try to argue this point with me..... I cannot stand it when people do that and when people try to say being single can be fun, etc, at MY age. NO.... I don't want it. I've been single and it's far more fun when you're younger. Most men my age will want a younger woman... not someone equal in age. I don't want to face a dating scene ever again - not ever. And the bottom line is, I'd far rather have a partner than be alone.