I spoke angrily to my first T on just one occasion, and she replied to me in a slightly emotionally charged way, with some words that were a little bit holding. Sometime later one of my teenage children was speaking angrily to me, which was usual for her, and I stayed with her, in a different way than I ever had before, and replied to her, maybe in a similar way to my T, and I believe that moment changed my daughter. I think that maybe your instinct that his reaction wasn’t entirely helpful is true, we need our T’s to be in some way emotionally involved with us, to be moved by our sorrow, and our anger, and to be genuinely present with us.