Isn’t he also dealing with the same issue again and again? On the other side from you, of course. Maybe you can talk about that.

He is who he is. Either that benefits you or not. Your therapy isn’t about changing him, it’s about helping you handle life. Maybe the conversation grenades give you more insight into other issues in your life, or maybe they’re useless. Only you can really know.

Totally separate issue: I have 4 hours between classes, so I spent it walking a couple miles around the campus lake and I was thinking about how there’s the rule of thumb, 7 animal years = 1 human year. What’s the ratio of therapy years to real-life years? Like I feel it’s only now after 3 1/2 years that Info is becoming regularly useful. And I’d know that a lot faster in real life. So I posit 1 year in therapy = 1 month of real life.