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Originally Posted by hvert
Wow Rose76, that friend who did not even respond after asking to get together for years! I stopped talking to a friend under similar circumstances. We'd known each other for twenty years and had made plans to meet up that fell through. She was finally coming to an area where we could have each had a four hour drive to meet half way. She was visiting family she didn't even like and we both enjoyed long drives. It came as a huge shock when she suggested I drive 8 hours to meet her for lunch.
I think 'we should get together' is kind of like 'how are you doing,' something people say but don't mean literally.
Jesyka, I hope you have a good meet up with your friend today! Btw, I don't think you are needy or entitled for wanting a polite answer to your invite. Unfortunately, other people feel like the indirect no is more polite. I would personally lean towards not confronting and just moving on to other friendships, but there are good reasons for each approach.
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Thanks. We did have a nice time together one on one which is super rare these days. The other woman who always dominates the convo was with her family that day. You're right about what you said. I believe in open communication to improve friendships. Why would you not recommend that?