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Old Apr 09, 2021, 06:48 AM
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Originally Posted by eskielover View Post
How do you think therapy might change your trust issue? Trust & change takes time to prove.

When I left my now EX 14 years ago, I told him even from 2100 miles away I would KNOW if he changed. He never did & now I finally have a good lawyer to wrap up the mess he made in my life over those 14 years before I could get my divorce. Pathetic people never change any more than leapords change their spots. Giving them time only gives them more time to mess up your life & keep the drama going.

Yes we all make our own decisions for our life & then we deal with the consequences of OUR choices.
I know what you're saying. I need his actions to always back up his words, and I've told him this. I don't know yet how therapy will help - it may not, so we'll have to see. It's possible that I may decide I cannot trust him, regardless of what happens in therapy. He does have to prove himself, over time. Right now, I don't know how things will unfold. I feel too weakened by life to walk away.
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