Open Eyes

Mother's comment about having to do everything herself is a direct contradiction to her independent nature. She's wanted to retain some independence. Doing her own washing, light cleaning, preparing meals, etc.

However, she's not eating properly. Contents of freezer mostly untouched, living on breakfast cereal for main meal. Then she keeps saying she wants a new ironing board because last one was too heavy. I've suggested she would find even the smallest one difficult, but subject comes up frequently.

Advised her nearly two weeks ago that she needs a medication review with doctor (phone call). Still not arranged so I can't order what she needs until that's happened.

Realise our ability to do certain things diminishes with age. I was painting my hall yesterday and knew I couldn't do it in one go! Mother's closed mind and aggressive attitude isn't going to make her arthritic joints disappear or stop the ageing process. I've tried the professional approach you mention. Thought I'd had some success but no. Never intended to try and change her, just open her mind to being more positive. We've talked about various political situations, Covid and all that's involved and rubbish tv programmes so she can engage positively.