IF this becomes about ME in ANY way, he WILL find ways to BLAME ME for HIS ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR.

I will let the therapist guide the sessions. But I am not making it about me. Of course, my husband has every right to bring up any issues that bother him, but I am in therapy to address his abuse AND my current mistrust of him. That's the only reason for the therapy.

We are there as a couple to help HIM learn better ways to communicate with me.