For the past 3 months I have been dating a man who is 9 years younger than me. He is someone I truly enjoy talking to and just hanging out with. We have many similar interests and I am comfortable being around him. So far he has shown no hint of a bad temper which is great because I have been there too many times in relationships. I have a 14 year old who he has met and they get along famously. I am getting to a point where I really like him and want to spend more time with him but there are some um.....odd things going on that I don't understand and have never encountered in a relationship. First, we have held hands once but never kissed in 3 months. Second, as part of a bizarre evening he started masturbating in front of me. I decided to um....help him along. Afterwards he was moody and sullen and the next day we had a chat online about slowing down. I agreed that we needed to take things slower because we get along well and don't want to force the relationship. Then he mentioned that he would still be dating other people....... that really bothered me and I let him know that while I agreed we should slow down the dating other people is just not my style. After that things were a little weird our next meeting and while we talked and hung out just like always he did not give me a hug goodbye and has not in the past month. We have gone on several more dates but still no more physical contact. This was all a little strange for me to begin with but about two weeks ago we were at his place to watch a movie and he started masturbating in front of me again! This time in an attempt to keep the promise to slow down I just sat there and waited for him to finish. Afterward we watched a movie and it was like nothing was out of the ordinary. I am so confused! What is going on here? I am 34 and have been in several relationships but this is a true first. Any ideas or input into what is happening?