geekgirl....

My heart goes out to you. I do have to reinforce to you not to take the crap from your ex personally.

I can relate to your situation of feeling tapped out and destitute. Having gone throgh two divorces, being taken be a gold digger the resultant financial fallout is enormous. I don't know what to tell you other than I can relate to what you are going through, and what you are feeling.

You can not have the opinions of one person change the way you feel about yourself. If you let him beat you down, you will let him win. The best way to "show him" is to be strong and move on. With that being said I know that is easier said than done. I know in my case there is nothing I want more than to get strong, be healthy and productive and demonstrate to my ex girlfriend that she was dad wrong about me. But then their are other times I just want to throw in the towel because there is only so much stress, heartache and disappointment one person can handle.

Please take care of yourself.