When we are effected by someone else's criticism for hours, it might be a sign of codependency (One sign is valuing the approval of others more than valuing yourself--our behaviors are on a spectrum, as in, you and/or your partner might be a little or a lot codependent or anywhere in between and you and/or your partner might be a little or a lot narcissistic--there is lots of narcissism in our society--IMO, we all have to guard against it and try not to be like that). We all love imperfectly (I include myself in this). I learned to be less codependent by relying more on God's perfect love but I also have found some of Dr. Ramani's tips helpful. For example: