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Old Apr 12, 2021, 10:48 PM
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Originally Posted by eskielover View Post


I definitely try to approach them diplomatically YET FIRM while they are pushing my limit so they have warning all along. I did have to learn how to be diplomatic & not just blow up at people. It was a wake up call as to just how far my ex had pushed me that my reactions to everyone at that point were to blow up first. It was a good lesson to learn & as I calmed down it was much easier to approach everyone in a much calmer way. I was like that glass that was filled to the top & one more drop from anyone, I would dump. Now my stress glass is almost empty & I am back to responding much more calmly.

I used my over reactions as learning experiences to change rather than feeling guilty about them
Yep makes sense. Overtime bottled up emotions can burst and you can say or do things you may regret later. Being firm and assertive ahead of time is a good idea because it helps release those emotions and also lets the person know that you are not playing around and that you're not a pushover. I need to do that more often. I do, just not a lot. I really need to to be firm and assertive with my coworkers, who are all way older than me, in a professional manner.
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