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Originally Posted by eskielover
I definitely try to approach them diplomatically YET FIRM while they are pushing my limit so they have warning all along. I did have to learn how to be diplomatic & not just blow up at people. It was a wake up call as to just how far my ex had pushed me that my reactions to everyone at that point were to blow up first. It was a good lesson to learn & as I calmed down it was much easier to approach everyone in a much calmer way. I was like that glass that was filled to the top & one more drop from anyone, I would dump. Now my stress glass is almost empty & I am back to responding much more calmly.
I used my over reactions as learning experiences to change rather than feeling guilty about them
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Yep makes sense. Overtime bottled up emotions can burst and you can say or do things you may regret later. Being firm and assertive ahead of time is a good idea because it helps release those emotions and also lets the person know that you are not playing around and that you're not a pushover. I need to do that more often. I do, just not a lot. I really need to to be firm and assertive with my coworkers, who are all way older than me, in a professional manner.