Very difficult conversation with Mother this evening. I apologised for raising my voice to her last week, which she accepted. However, said she was still waiting for apology from me that I would not show her some compassion by apologising to my sister in law.

Doesn't want me to do any shopping for her tomorrow, says she's made other arrangements. Five minutes later, she said she'd have to sort out who would do her shopping. When I raised this, got a lecture about how hurt she was by what I'd said to her. It was no good saying people say things in the heat of the moment, she considered it was just an excuse.

Has a telephone appointment with doctor on Thursday about her depression. Over two years ago, she raised this subject during a doctor's appointment I attended with her. Doctor told her she didn't appear depressed and seemed to have a good support network. This took place well before the incident with my sister in law. However, Mother is trying to say that it's been brought on by that incident.

Had long telephone chat with my aunt who doesn't know what to suggest. I got upset, she said it's understandable. She suspects my brother has been "chosen" to do the shopping. It was very enlightening to hear that my sister in law has no intention of apologising for her actions. It's only what I suspected. So now my mother has managed to upset my aunt and me. Doesn't like neighbour for telling the truth, so now only has my brother and sister in law to help her. She'll be happy that favourite child is now at centre of her life. This all seems pre-planned. Starting this argument three weeks ago, in anticipation of lockdown ending. Sometimes I can be too perceptive but it's useful. It's as if she's engineered the whole thing.