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Originally Posted by susannahsays
I don't disagree that might be their intention, but how very unnatural! People in real life do not respond this way unless they just don't care. Or, I suppose, if a parent is too tired to engage with a tantruming child. I'm left wondering what the point is of modeling such a bizarre response that will never be replicated in life. Maybe it's me... I've been equally baffled by other things therapists are said to model.
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I do this all the time with my toddler. She gets mad about things, and it would be counterproductive for me to get angry with her for not yet having the ability to regulate her own emotions. I don't stare at her smiling, but I do try to validate whatever she's angry about (even if I don't really get it or I know she's mostly angry because she's hunger or tired), give her a hug, sit with her, etc. I can relate to not really feeling comfortable unless things are at least slightly in conflict because of my own upbringing, but I don't think it necessarily
has to be that way.