Prec -what happened to you was awful. The legal def of rape changes depending on where you are located -which is not a good thing. It does not mean what happened to you wasn't rape - I would suggest not letting other therapists or technical definitions define your experience. When I mentioned definition before - I was offering my thoughts on why therapists in general might have a hurdle with the word. Perhaps getting caught up in the definition is not a useful thing. What he did to you was horrible and you are not to blame.