Dear Jimbo 2802,
My heart goes out to you. We definitely know most of the time when things are not right. It's sad that she wanted you to marry her and when you said no, she found greener pastures. She eventually got what she wanted. I believe that the pain of betrayal and staying in a no-win relationship is the worst. I'd say you dodged the bullet. If she cheated on you and wasn't honest about it, just might happen again. You've got 3 beautiful children that depend on you. What will happen to them, if something happens to you, my friend? Hugs from afar...Zipper dog