katiescarlett, I have been married to a narcissist for 20 years and only recently realized that was his problem. It was a lot of pain for 20 years, but we're separated now, and will be divorced soon. Best move I ever made. Now that I have made the move to escape from him and his abusive and selfish ways, I wonder why it took me so long. They can be so charming, and from time to time they give you tidbits to make you think there are better times ahead. The dream of love dies hard. But nothing ever changes, and as you said, you can feel trapped because of the kids. I am so glad I finally woke up and am getting out.

Now that I understand things better about my marriage, I know that I will never put up with this from another man. If I ever go on to have another relationship (and at this point I don't want to), I will be able to recognize a narcissist much sooner and will head for the door as soon as I do. Sorry, but no thanks to that.