I had a similar experience to sweetcrusader, and I set up some similar boundaries at the beginning of therapy. He mentioned a hypothetical situation about being tired in therapy because his water heater broke and he was up all night, and I told him, in no uncertain terms, that I did not want to know ANYTHING AT ALL about his personal life. I just wanted him to exist in that room. Too much disclosure was the beginning of a slippery slope with a "counselor" in my past who ended up crossing the boundaries with me, big time.

Later, I found out by accident what kind of car he drove. It felt unsettling, but we talked about it in therapy, and I realized it was okay. Now, I feel a little more comfortable with the possibility of his disclosure, but he's still very respectful of that boundary that I set.

He assured me at the beginning of therapy that he has "VERY good boundaries". I trust him more and more as time goes on, but the fear created by the other situation still rears it ugly head sometimes.

As for his own boundaries that he sets, I haven't really bumped up against them yet. He's fine with calls and e-mails and touch. He has made it clear that our relationship exists sort of outside the real world - we won't have lunch, get coffee, etc....and that's perfect for me, because I want him to be my T for as long as I need him. I would hate it if something messed that up.