hi Jinnyann

imo none of us are bad people... because we are all learning and growing, it makes our experiences, even the hard ones, lessons to be learned from.. that is not in any way to discount the serious and tragic human reality associated with abuse or the wide range of sufferings that far too many of us are subjected to against our own will....

it is not for me or any other to say you are right or wrong to feel as you do imo... what you feel is what you feel and there is no way i can compare my own suffering to any others... for them it is real, and to them, it is suffering... i take them at their words....

you will know what is right for you to do... i believe the choices we all make enable us to soar or fall, or stay somewhere in between... only myself knows what action creates the healing feeling i seek.. what works for me doesnt work for all... we each are bound to our own choices imo Jinnyann... and some of those paths we travel were not of our own choosing at all, but i believe it is we ourselves who choose what to do with our experience.. whether to choose growth or stagnation is a choice we can make every day, every moment...

i hope i choose growth in all cases, but at times, my human limits are very apparent and i have to chew on the same lesson over and over til i finally look at it from the right angle.....

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I was moved to read this. However, i cannot forgive the person who took away my innocence and my childhood. Therefore does this make me a bad person?

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