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Originally Posted by RollercoasterLover
Thanks everyone..
My personal trigger is a phrase my ex husband always said to me. I've gotten to the point where hearing most people say it or reading it or whatever and all I need is a deep breath and I'm fine. I've worked hard to get to this point. Hearing my daughter say it to me while I was making sure she handed in homework (she's still virtual for school and has a history of turning assignments in late)... it just hurt. I went through my groundings, didn't cry, focused on the task at hand... I got through it like one gets through a funeral if that makes sense.
Maybe I'll call my doc tomorrow. I feel like waiting a week is going to be worse than asking my daughter not to use the saying.
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Please be careful about making your child responsible for your mental health. I know that would not be your intention, please don’t get me wrong. But that could unwittingly be how it is received. Additionally, the message that she is in any way communicating hurtfully like her abusive father (again, I know that would not be your intention) might be heavy baggage for a child. Kids internalize things sometimes incorrectly and my concern is that might be an unintended result of talking to her about this specific trigger.
As others have said, we who deal with PTSD ultimately have to learn the skills to work through our own triggered responses because no matter how much we think we know what triggers us, sometimes it is just not terribly predictable.