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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
Well, I think the key is to pay attention to individuals who say "I feel this way and it's YOUR FAULT". This can be a red flag that you may be dealing with a person that blames outside input on how they feel. That's not a person who is willing to own their own feelings and instead chooses to blame their feelings on others.
This is what I kept dealing with when it came to my older sister and she is very disordered and engages in all kinds of cognitive distortions and likes to create her OWN narrative which isn't based on truth and reality. My sister is very prone to blowing up in rages and doesn't care who she rages in front of either. There are times where the best thing to do is completely disconnect when a person begins to show the red flags and you basically have to tip toe around them constantly.
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Yes, this is a key. Blaming others for how we feel. I have done this to be honest more than what I would like to admit. So, that’s why I’m working on it. And who made me realised of it? Guess who? Another person. Because, these kind of things are normally realised when you are interacting with others. This is the point in going to a therapist, talking about your issues with a friend or ask for support in a platform as that.
Another key is when people talk bad about others in their backs while they play the victim role and place themselves in a pedestal.
I very much think that when a person is at this point, the best is to let the person reaches the bottom and not sugarcoating.
It must be very hard to have a close relative at this point. Sure it’s really frustrating because on one part, you want to support this person but on the other part, you can’t feed their demons. And in the end, it’s your sister, your brother, your mother...
Luckily, I don’t know any person im my close circle who is at this point. Indeed, I’m the most neurotic out of them all. lol!