the only real boundary issue which has come up was back when he said he couldn't come to my show, and even then he struggled with that one. He said that it would be too much like we were friends and that wasn't supposed to happen. He does know that i wasn't expecting/asking for anything outside of the therapeutic relationship... it was just where i think he had to draw the boundary for himself so that he didn't become enmeshed. My pdoc on the other hand loves to go to stuff like that and has openly said that his long term patients are special to him, he doesn't have kids. No problem here.

maybe you could explain that a T sees many clients, while each client sees just one T... i found that statement made a lot of things more clear to me... he will always be more special to me than i am to him, but it doesnt mean that he can't care about me. i have many friends, but i care about each as themselves for example.

rip... boundaries are funny.. well, not haha funny.. and people give that line about crossing them because it's true, you generally find out where one is by crossing it. Some things, most things i would think, would be mutual rather than either/or. But discussions about chance public encounters, etc are good ones to have. And as far as going by yours or hers... well, i'd say that if its hurting then you're running into her boundaries. But im guessing bc i dont know what has happened lately with your T.