Hugs, Scarlet, of course we're not tired of hearing from you. Could you sit down with H and show him the finances? Or is he not someone who would understand, looking at the numbers? It wouldn't be fair for him to tell you to reduce with L if he's doing frivolous spending.

Is there anything you can do to bring in a little money? I know you're on disability, but something like...I don't know, dog walking or house sitting? Or do some sort of craft, sell it on Etsy? Or I don't know what other skills/knowledge you have, whether you could work on something from home part time.