Yes, it will probably be nerve wracking to walk in that first night. I remember it! But, the group will help you handle whatever reaction you have. They've seen and experienced it all...really. Crying and yelling and silence and anger and sobbing are all allowed. Everyone there knows ALL those feelings. My first night I just cried, don't think I spoke a word. I was just soooo relieved to finally meet others like me.

Just know that every group is a bit different, and the leaders are most likely not professionals. They are probably survivors just like you and me. They all know the heartache of this loss, and the why? why? why? Bring kleenex, sit next to the leader or any warm face. Try to talk to anyone as soon as you get there to break the ice, and tell them you are new. They'll help you.

Seriously, in my whole life I never met kinder people ever than those I've met at these support groups. They've been to hell, each one, and lived to tell the story, and to help the next person make it through.

Warm hugs to my pal , emmy