It seems now that things are a bit better. It may have been an emotional issue, as we were having some relationship issues which have been mostly sorted out now. While I still haven't "gotten there" in a technical sense, I get what seems BETTER- shaking and trembling uncontrolably and what I'd describe as "dying with each touch for more". We have also tried some new positions. As I say, I'm not complaining. I did relate this to him, and I think he's a bit more in tune with what I need- as I told him what things really "do it for me". I still feel, though, that if I could just reach that bit further.... I can empathize with how HE is feeling and, in a way, feel bad I can't feel that way myself. Hard to describe as, on the whole, its all the BEST experience I've had with anybody and I'd much prefer it to "getting there" other times. Its just that all of this PLUS getting there would be GREAT!