I am sorry you are going through this. I got a divorce after 31 years of verbal abuse. The Verbally Abusive Relationship by Patricia Evans saved my life. Sometimes it helps to write (to the abuser) a letter of "restorative justice." That means saying...this is what you did, this is how it made me feel. Most abusers will deny their abuse, the letter is more for you than the abuser. Keeping a journal is also helpful. After 20 years divorced, I still feel anger. All of our feelings are valid....do you have a friend you can share with what you are going through.....a therapist can help also....Unfortunately, some therapists aren't well trained in verbal abuse; it is necessary to interview some to find out who wlll meet your needs. It might help to do some physical exercise to help with that frustration and anger, but I found for me that talking about it with friends was helpful. I wish you love and hugs.