i agree with the wise and wonderful posters. i think it is understandable your children would find this painful and confusing. i think some family therapy, perhaps together with their mom if possible, may Help. Hopefully with time they will get used tot his and the situation will become slightly more bearable for everyone. It is a REALLY good thing that their mother is still there so that they will at least have a mother figure growing up even if not in the same house unfortunately. Try to be the best possible father you can be as i think you're already trying to be. Consider therapy. So Sorry you're in this situation but Hopefully things will then improve. Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Paul Neil, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!