For 90mphneutral, I have tried to give him chance after chance, a time to just tell me the truth, time to treat me better, by me treating him better. How many chances does a "N" really need, maybe you need to fill me in a little. I appreciate you speaking and admitting you are an "N". I am amazed in a good way.

But my "N" thinks I am jealous of everything. Well i am jealous of some things, knowing he would cheat on me in a second if he knew I wouldn't find out, knowing he slept with his estranged wife and claimed he was faithful to me. Trust me, she knows very personal things about me, she wouldn't have know, she said they discussed me while having sex, then this "N" claimed his love for me and married me. How could I have been so stupid?

Maybe you are not as big of an "N" that he is.....but he is still lying about it. I did get into it with him the other night, but of course, he yet again denied it. What is he so afraid of? I don't believe him. I pretty much told him so. I said, "I want to believe you I really do"....but I have caught him in other lies, only when confronted with the phone bill, for example, did he fess up. He never would have had I not been so vigilant. I can't control his work phone, but I can check up on most things. Let me tell you why I do....because he lied to me a few times and was caught, he will continue to lie to get what he wants, leaving me in the dust, expecting me to just take it. So again I ask, how many chances?

After identifying the problem and trying to get to marriage couselling trying to talk it out for months, how long should I give chances, please please let me know. Maybe being an "N" yourself, you can tell me why this is happening to me. What am I doing wrong? Help me if you can. Please.