I have no room to talk, but a husband praying about not being with his wife......a boyfriend who probably is gay and won't admit it. You girls are so much better than that. I am a situation as well I don't know how to handle, so like I said, I have not much room to talk, I am having a weight issue as well, but I just had my daughter 4 months ago. His exwife has weighted 100 lbs more than me since the birth of their first daughter. I am not putting down anyone overweight, but if my man has the gall to say I am overweight after what he lived with for over 8 years, it;'s the guys with the problems not you girls. I am equally afraid to do anything that will upset my husband much just to keep the piece. I feel like a roommate as well, except of course the rare occasion when he is in the mood, but he used to be in the mood quite often, but of course I was about 25 lbs lighter. But I am eating well and working out. He is eating well...well meaning alot of food and he does go to work but comes home and eats more. He is overweight by at least 40 lbs, but he has the nerve to say I am overweight. I alreadly promised him, with my healthy eating and my working out at the gym I will be just like I used to be and more attractive to other men (I don't want anyone else, but attention is attention) like I supposedly used to be. He is going to be nothing but a ticking time bomb for a heart attack etc. A man should not be praying about weight, he should be praying for a healthy and loving family no matter what. I own a jerk sounds like you do too.