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Zipper dog
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Default Apr 24, 2021 at 09:07 AM
 
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Originally Posted by seesaw View Post
Anyone else with cPTSD feel like they are always having to justify things they like, do, don't do, want, their life in general to others? Unless I'm in a court of law, it's no one's business but my own why I do one thing or another. Why do I always feel like I have to explain myself? I don't have to. I have every right to simply say no or yes or do whatever I want without having to explain myself to someone else.

If I'm not working today, then I'm not, no one is owed any explanation. But for some reason I feel I have to appease other people and that I'm always wrong, even explaining my rational for doing the most minor thing.

I am a believer that "that which is not distinguished, runs you." But I don't think that means having to explain to others why I do one thing or another. My reasons for doing one thing or another, for working or not working, are my business, not someone else's. And yet the second someone demands an explanation, I have a full blown panic attack AND feel like I owe them some sort of response, when I don't.

Does anyone else feel this way?
Dear Seesaw, First of all, I commend you for explaining it so well. I too used to explain my every movement. For over 60 years. I was seeking that atta girl approval. You're right! We don't need to explain. It's exhausting. And, nobody is in our body who understands. Kudos to you from me. Not that you need it. You just need to know it. Own it. And believe it. Hugs...
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Thanks for this!
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