Razzleberry, one of the things that was very hurtful to me in my marriage, was that my husband never once acknowledged me on mother's day. My oldest child is 17 and my H never even said Happy Mother's Day, much less gave me a card. To me it sent the message that he thinks I was a bad mother. Because if they appreciate your efforts at mothering, they would say thank you on this special day. It always hurt me. I tried to model the behavior I would have liked from him by always telling him Happy Father's Day, you are such a good dad to our kids, thank you, preparing a special meal or barbecue, always getting him a card.

We're getting divorced now, so I guess it's just one complaint among many. It makes me sad he thought so little of me and my mothering efforts all those years, even during our better times. Even though I have my flaws, I always thought I was a good mom, but he didn't appreciate even that. C'est la vie.

Razzleberry, I'm sorry your husband did not acknowledge your contribution as a mom. I know how much it hurts.